.•Meghan has disclosed the tragic incident and loss of her baby in July in US article named: ‘The Losses We Share’
•Meghan, Duchess of Sussex said she felt a ‘sharp cramp’ as she was changing Archie’s nappy and ultimately fell on the ground
•Hours later she found herself in hospital with Harry as they ‘tried to imagine how we’d heal’ from ‘unbearable grief’
•She described her sorrow while seeing her ‘husband’s heart break as he was trying hold her from breaking down.
Meghan Markle’s ‘The Losses We Share’:
Meghan Markle today in an article for the New York Times wrote she suffered a miscarriage in the month of July.
The Duchess of Sussex mentioned that she lost her second child after suffering a ‘sharp cramp’ while changing her son Archie’s nappy.
Further writing in her article today, Ms Markle stated she felt ill at home in Los Angeles and was taken to the hospital. She was tearfully watching her husband Harry’s ‘heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine’.
Describing the miserable incident she felt ‘something was not right’. She said after changing his nappy, she felt a ‘sharp cramp’. She then fainted on the floor with her son in her arms, ‘humming a lullaby’ to keep both of them calm, ‘the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right’.
As I Clutched My Firstborn Child, I Was Losing My Second
In the article known as ‘The Losses We Share’, she said: ‘I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second’. There is no accurate news as to how many weeks pregnant Meghan was, but most women usually suffer miscarriages in the primary three months.
Meghan Markle Describes Turmoil of 2020:
Meghan’s New York Times piece of writing also elaborates a year of ‘breaking points’ for the world. She mentioned 1million-plus Covid-19 deaths around the world as well as the ‘social separation’ of lockdown and the Black Lives Matter protests agitated by the deaths of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor in the US.
She added : ‘Polarization, coupled with the social isolation’ that we need to fight this pandemic, has left us feeling more alone and isolated than ever.
The royal couple talked recently about the fortunate feeling they have had watching Archie’s ‘first steps, first run and first fall’ during the pandemic. But, have now come out to mention their own heartbreak at loss of a baby.
Condolences From Loved Ones:
Harry’s uncle Charles Spencer sent his condolences to his nephew’s wife after hearing about the tragic incident of her miscarriage.
Prince Harry’s uncle Charles Spencer expressed grief and said news of the miscarriage was ‘very, very sad’ while being interviewed by Lorraine Kelly on her ITV programme today.
Lorraine asked him: ‘I’m sure you’ll want to join all of us to send best wishes to Meghan and of course to your nephew Harry, because today we just found out the very sad news that she’d had a miscarriage, and it’s just terribly sad, isn’t it?’
On call, answering from his home at Althorp in Northamptonshire, Earl Spencer replied: ‘It is, Lorraine, isn’t it’. He continued and said that it is nearly impossible for him to imagine the grief of the couple of ‘losing a child in this way’ and it’s ‘so very, very sad’.
Today Meghan Markle stated that her miscarriage had happened on a July morning that started like any other normal summer day.
The Duchess of Sussex wrote she had woken up, gave meal to the dogs, cleaned up Archie’s clothes and colours before ‘throwing my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib’.
She then experienced a sudden pain in her stomach as she changed her son’s nappy and then collapsed to the floor holding him as she lost her unborn child.
Ms Markle wrote how sorrowful it was for her to watch her husband’s tears while laying in a hospital bed. ‘I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears’ she said.
Meghan added that it is her desire to encourage others to talk about it that made her write the article about her own loss.
‘Are You OK?’
Doing justice to the timing of her article, she wrote: ‘This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points,’ Meghan writes. ‘So, this Thanksgiving, ‘let us commit to asking others, ‘Are you OK?’
She further said losing a child comes with bearing an ‘almost unbearable grief’, which r people who have gone through it rarely talk about.
Meghan Said Miscarriage Needs To Be Talked About
Meghan said that while bearing the pain of their loss, they observed that ‘in a room of 100 women, 10-20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage’. Still inspite of the same kind of pain faced, the topic still remains a taboo. People don’t talk about it because of shame making it an indefinite ‘ cycle of solitary mourning.’
Meghan penned in the New York Times that after losing the unborn baby this summer, she had recalled the royal visit she and Harry made in September 2019.
She said she was ‘exhausted’ and was breastfeeding her infant baby, while ‘trying to keep a brave face in the very public eye’.
”Are you OK?’ a journalist asked me. I answered him honestly, not knowing that what I said would resonate with so many — new moms and older ones, and anyone who had, in their own way, been silently suffering. My off-the-cuff reply seemed to give people permission to speak their truth. But it wasn’t responding honestly that helped me most, it was the question itself.’
‘Thank you for asking,’ I said. ‘Not many people have asked if I’m OK.’
‘2020- Where There Was Once Community, There is Now Division’
Further writing in the article she also describes the problems in 2020 caused by Covid. She also stated tensions caused by the deaths of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor in the US. And, called 2020 a year when ‘places where there was once community, there is now division’.
Meghan remembers when she was once in New York and saw ‘a woman on her phone in a flood of tears’. But, she decided not to talk to her.
She wondered that after so many years in the middle of a pandemic, mourning the loss of a child, the loss of her country’s common belief in truth, she remembers that woman in New York. ‘What if no one stopped? I wish I could go back and ask my cabdriver to pull over’ she said.
Concluding her piece the Duchess of Sussex alarms of the ‘danger of siloed living’ and says that many ‘sad, scary or sacrosanct are all lived out alone’.
She then motivates people to stop people to ask: ‘Are you OK?’, stating that she believes that the ‘load of grief often becomes lighter’ when shared with someone.
‘In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing’, she wrote. Adding further, she said that we are learning to live a new normal where faces are hidden under masks. It’s compelling us to look into one another’s eyes — ‘sometimes filled with warmth, other times with tears’. She further said that it is for the first time, in a long time that people are ‘really seeing one another’.
The article comes to an end with: ‘Are we OK? We will be’.
A Baby Brother or Sister For Archie Was Expected:
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have openly spoken about their desire of raising two children to complete their family.
They have always dreamt of welcoming a new addition – a baby brother or sister for Archie Mountbatten-Windsor and it’s no secret.
Harry told activist and chimpanzee expert Jane Goodall in 2019 that he would only have two children ‘maximum’ for the safety of the planet.
The personal details shared in the article violate with the usual policy of the British royal family. The royal family members disclose almost nothing about their personal lives.
Harry’s grandmother the Queen has never unravelled her private life in any media interview in her 68-year tenure.
But Meghan and Harry went aside from royal duties and moved to the United States earlier this year. They have been trying to set a new role for themselves outside the boundaries of life in Britain’s royal bubble.
In Meghan’s New York Times article, she encourages people to ask others if they are ok. She believes that when we invite someone to share his pain, it turns out to be the first step towards healing.
Other Royal Women To Have Had Miscarriages
Note that other royal women have also gone through the loss of an unborn baby. The Queen’s granddaughter Zara Tindall suffered two miscarriages before having her second child.
The Countess of Wessex lost her first baby in December 2001 when she was airlifted to hospital.
An estimate says one in four pregnancies ends in a miscarriage according to the charity Tommy’s. According to the organisation, a large amount of women lose their babies during the first 3 months of pregnancy.
Meghan and Harry Always Wanted Children:
The duke Harry and former American actress Meghan had a long-held urge to have children.
The duchess once described motherhood as a part of her ‘bucket list’. Moreover, Harry often hinted towards becoming a father, specifically after the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge had their own child.
The news was quite obvious when Kensington Palace made the announcement. In October 2018 – five months after Harry and ex-Suits star got married news came out that the duchess was pregnant.
‘I can’t wait to start a family, but in due time,’ she said.
During Meghan’s pregnancy, an overwhelmed Harry called the baby ‘our little bump’. The duchess was frequently see caressing her stomach.
Parenthood For The Couple:
With Archie’s arrival, Harry and Meghan seemed to accept parenthood with ease.
On a trip to the Hague soon after the arrival of his son the duke described his newborn as ‘very quiet’.
Four months after Archie’s birth , Meghan resumed work, launching a capsule clothing collection for the Smart Works charity.
She jokingly said as she left the launch event: ‘I’ve got to get back to the baby – it’s feeding time.’
The couple have talked about how delighted they have felt while spending time with Archie in lockdown.
Meghan said in an interview with the Evening Standard in October about their well being and how they feel lucky to have their little one.
‘He is just so busy, he is all over the place.’ she added. She says he keeps her on her toes and she is so lucky to have him.